Betrayed – Or Always on the Lookout of Being Betrayed?

What feels worse to you? Being actually betrayed by a partner?  Or feeling terrified by the possibility of being betrayed and getting hurt? To me, the latter feels worse… Not because I want to diminish the pain of experiencing betrayal – it’s so hurtful and there is no denying that. But when it actually happens,…

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The Danger of Feeling & Giving Into Urgency In Relationships

Yesterday something happened that stirred up number of emotions in me: worry, anger, sadness, relief, and inspired to share this story.  A client of mine messaged me sounding so excited and urgent because a man who had disappeared on her for a week had just reappeared and texted her. Every word in her message screamed URGENCY…

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Don’t Play Hard To Get – Be Easy To Lose

Have you been given the bad relationship advice that you need to “Play Hard to Get”? That he needs to think that you’re not that into him? And when he calls don’t pick up your phone; wait for half an hour and then call back pretending that you were out with your girlfriends partying…

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How Feeling Attached to your Desire Keeps it Away

A lovely reader wrote to me few days ago (let’s call her Jess):  “Shahrzad, I’ve read your guide, I read your posts every day, I try to remain open and positive, do the tools, meditate, write in my gratitude journal, but it’s been 3 months, and none of the guys in my circular dating…

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How Do I Get My Ex Back?

One of the most painful experiences that a woman can go through in her life is a breakup. If you’re reading this, you’re most likely either going through it right now, or have experienced it in the past. And I so know how awful it feels. It feels like you can never get over him.…

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How Can I Stop Thinking About Him?

Is obsessing over a man a permanent feeling in your life? It looks like this. You can’t stop thinking about him. You always have one eye on your phone in hopes to see his name pop on your screen. You check to see when was the last time he was online. You Facebook stalk him.…

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He’s Withdrawing! How Do I Bring Him Close Again?

A very common scenario that almost all women deal with is when they feel like the man in their life is starting to withdraw. Here’s a message that I received today from Sarah: “Dear Shahrzad, thank you so much for always giving me advice that puts my mind at ease and helps me feel centered…

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